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Is Your Partner a Narcissist?

Narcissistic abuse is an insidious form of emotional destruction. It leaves you questioning your reality, constantly apologizing, and feeling like you are walking on eggshells. Please know this is not normal relationship conflict. You are not crazy and what you are experiencing is a systematic pattern of emotional control designed to diminish your confidence and keep you trapped. This quiz is your first step out of the fog.

It provides a structured, objective evaluation of his behavior based on established psychological indicators. We are not labeling him but simply assessing the potential level of grandiosity, entitlement, and exploitation present in your partnership. Your answers will give you the clear-headed certainty you need to decide your next move and reclaim your peace.

The confusion comes from the fact that narcissistic behavior shifts constantly between intense flattery and harsh devaluation. This makes it almost impossible to trust your own instincts or remember the pattern of abuse. To protect yourself, you must move away from emotional reaction and towards cold, hard data.

I created these questions based on the core mechanisms of narcissistic injury and defense. They expose the patterns of blame shifting, emotional invalidation, and boundary invasion. This assessment examines his stability, his empathy, and his need for external validation.

Your result is not a diagnosis. It is a powerful map of the emotional terrain of your relationship. Use it to stop making excuses for behavior that harms you. The goal is simple, to reclaim your right to feel safe, cherished, and respected in your own relationship.

When you raise a legitimate concern about his behavior, how does he typically react?

He listens with an open mind and works with you to find a solution.

He becomes slightly defensive but eventually agrees to talk.

He immediately shifts the blame back onto you, making you feel responsible for his actions.

He flies into a narcissistic rage or gives you the silent treatment for days.

How often does he seem to genuinely care about your personal feelings, successes, or losses?

Always. He is supportive and shows genuine empathy for your life.

Sometimes. If it does not interfere with his own mood or plans.

Rarely. He quickly redirects the conversation back to his own needs or achievements.

Never. He only uses your feelings against you or dismisses them as "too emotional."

Does he require constant admiration or praise from you and others to maintain his good mood?

No. He is confident and secure in himself.

Sometimes. He likes compliments but does not demand them.

Often. He sulks or acts distant if his achievements are not celebrated continuously.

Always. Your sole purpose seems to be his emotional mirror and source of supply.

How does he handle boundaries you try to establish like asking for privacy or time alone?

He respects them fully and supports your need for space.

He usually respects them after a brief discussion.

He ignores them repeatedly or acts wounded and victimized when you try to enforce them.

He uses your boundaries to punish you or violates them to show you they do not matter.

Have you noticed him deliberately rewriting your shared history or gaslighting you about past events?

No. You remember shared events the same way.

Rarely. You occasionally disagree on minor details.

Often. He tells you that you imagined things or that you said things you know you did not say.

Consistently. He creates an entirely false narrative to destabilize your sense of reality.

How does he treat people he considers "below" him like service staff?

With respect and genuine kindness.

He is polite but tends to be overly demanding.

With clear condescension, impatience, or dismissiveness.

With blatant arrogance, entitlement, and cruelty, treating them like objects.

Does he have a core group of stable long-term friendships?

Yes. He has several deep lasting friendships built on mutual respect.

He has a few friends, but they tend to be newer connections.

No. His old friends inevitably turn into his "enemies" or are dismissed as "failures."

He has many admirers but no real friends. All his relationships are transactional.

If he makes a mistake, what is his reaction?

He apologizes sincerely and takes immediate responsibility.

He minimizes the mistake but accepts the outcome.

He finds a detailed reason why the mistake was someone else's fault.

He denies the mistake ever happened and publicly humiliates anyone who suggests otherwise.

Does he have a history of idealizing you intensely only to suddenly devalue you and criticize your traits?

No. His affection is stable and consistent.

Rarely. He has ups and downs like everyone else.

Yes. He switches between treating you like a goddess and then with cold contempt.

Yes. You feel like you are constantly cycling through the idealization and discard phases.

How does he feel about the rules or laws that apply to everyone else?

He follows them understanding they create order.

He follows them but thinks they should be different for him.

He frequently breaks minor rules, because he believes he is smarter than the system.

He acts with blatant entitlement believing rules, and morality simply do not apply to him.

Does he rely on your income resources or social network while providing little in return?

No. Your contributions are equitable and supportive.

Sometimes. You help each other out as needed.

Yes. He uses your resources but acts entitled to them and rarely reciprocates.

Yes. He actively drains your resources and isolates you from your support system.

When you disagree on something, how does he ensure he "wins" the argument?

He looks for a fair compromise.

He tries to persuade you with logic and facts.

He attacks your character intelligence or sanity instead of addressing the topic.

He escalates to threats intense intimidation or emotional blackmail until you surrender.

How does he react if you succeed at something he failed at, or if you receive praise?

He genuinely celebrates your success.

He is supportive though maybe a little competitive.

He subtly minimizes your achievement or reminds you of your past failures.

He actively sabotages your efforts or creates a crisis to steal the attention back to himself.

Does he exhibit chronic lying where falsehoods are told for no apparent gain simply to maintain a certain image?

No. He is honest and reliable.

Occasionally. He stretches the truth about his past jobs.

Yes. He creates elaborate believable lies to maintain his grandiose image to the outside world.

Yes. His entire life narrative is a web of contradictions and lies making him impossible to trust.

If you express a strong negative emotion like sadness or fear, what is his primary concern?

Your well-being and how to help you feel better.

How quickly he can fix the problem.

How your emotions affect his reputation or mood.

He becomes angry because your emotions are inconvenient for him.

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